Suppression

For the most part, our personalities don’t change much. Many women with dominant personalities say their urge to control, dominate or humiliate men goes back to their childhood, but acting on those urges was supressed for years (or even decades) due to the overwhelming patriarchal “social norms” they were exposed to.

As men, we need to acknowledge we are responsible for this abuse. Fortunately (and despite men continuing to remain almost entirely silent on this issue) the world is finally waking up to this appalling mind control that has been going on for generations, and social change is on the horizon. But it will take time for women’s minds to fully break free of this damage being inflicted by men.

In the meantime guys, if you are serious about finding a dominant woman, look for the small signs of supressed bossiness or contempt for men. Then get at it. Make yourself useful in any way you can. Forget about your own urges and needs. Meet her needs and there’s a good chance you will ultimately get what you want as well. But you need to do the work first. Show that you are humble, reliable and hard-working, and that you genuinely want to serve her.